Cancers of the mind - Dot & Lola

Cancers of the mind

This sounds like a harsh title but I felt it needed a strong heading to really spark your mind into positive action.

There are 3 cancers of the mind and they consist of negative thought patterns which have been in bedded through a culture and conditioning in our society.


Over time our media, TV and social conversations have become more and more negative. We seem to be as human beings hard wired to listen to negativity over positivity.

This is no accident, we are hardwired to react to danger so our minds are very good at picking out negativity and dangerous situations. 

Over time this negative talk can lead to depression and anxiety which no one really wants or needs. 

I am not saying we should never think of negative thoughts or memories, we should, but what we really need to do is to allow these thoughts to come in and go out by simply acknowledging them and not voicing them to every single person we meet. This has a fascinating chain reaction which in turn cause the other person to join in, in the negative talk, whether that is about someone or some situation.

So what are the 3 cancers of the mind.

Lets start with:


Complaining is quite a broad negativity and can come in many guises, including the weather or the service in a hotel. 


Criticising can be a very harmful negativity as this allows your brain to automatically assume you are better than someone or something. When in truth we are all the same. Which in turn creates a heroically approach and you will in short feel a little less inferior for like a few seconds.


Comparing yourself to anyone else is completely futile and pointless as we all different in our own special way and have both positive and negative characteristics. So trying to be like or acting like someone else will come across very disingenuous and will detract people from your company.

By taking part in any of the above mentioned emotions or dialogue only leads to yet more and more negative talk and emotions. 

Take the news for example, this is a cancer of the media and and keeps us subconsciously locked in fear of the unknown. It totally comprises of negative stories and opinions. If we re-balanced the news with positive stories we would certainly see a different outcome in conversation within our communities and friends.

This has become a human trait and is now considered a normal behaviour to Complain, criticise or compare and no-one is challenging this narrative. 

I wanted to write this piece to really bring to your attention how you speak to people and yourself and what you may not understand is we are usually speaking through our subconscious. 

Without stopping to think about what we are saying in a constructive or harming way we simply say whatever comes into our brains. By taking a few seconds before we engage our mouths we can speak mindfully and take care not to offend or put others down or speak negative talk. Be mindful of your conversation as if the other person you are talking about is actually in the room.

Try not watching disaster movies, the news or a reality show for one month and instead turn your attention to discover nature, documentaries (positive ones) or happy ending films.


Notice your conversation and your confidence in yourself. There is a lot to be said for surrounding yourself with positivity.

I am not suggesting that you have to skip through life with rainbows and unicorns but we can all start to shift our attention to the positive in our lives, there is a lot of it.

There inherently is an abundance of good within each other, much more than bad, so lets start to speak the truth not the subconscious image we all have of one another. 

Take the time to notice the amount of times you complain, criticise or compare.

Doing this with a conscious mind will help develop the skills to truly speak from the heart rather than your subconscious thoughts that are guided by media, circumstance and past history. 

If anything I hope this short blog post will highlight the importance of how we speak to each other and ourselves.


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